신혼기 여성의 자기분화가 부부갈등에 미치는 영향 연구

국문 초록 (Abstract)

본 연구는 보웬의 가족체계이론 중 자기분화라는 개념을 중심에 두고
신혼기 여성의 원가족에서 형성된 자기분화에 대해 살펴보고, 부부갈등에
대한 태도와 자기분화가 부부갈등에 어떻게 미치는지 탐색하는 데 목적이
있다. 연구 방법으로는 질적 연구 방법인 내러티브 탐구 방법을 사용하여
신혼기 여성들의 삶의 경험을 있는 그대로 이해하고 각자의 독특한 삶의
맥락 가운데 이들의 원가족에서 형성된 자기분화가 부부갈등 경험에 어떤
영향을 미치는지 탐색했다.
연구 참여자는 모두 3명이며, 혼인 5년 이내의 아이가 없는 신혼기 여성
이다. 본 연구의 자료 수집 기간은 2023년 9월 10일부터 2024년 10월까지
13개월 동안 개별적으로 이루어졌다. 첫 인터뷰 때는 연구 목적과 의의,
연구 방법 등을 안내하고 연구동의서와 기본 정보를 수집했다. 연구 참여
자들과 2주에 한 번씩 인터뷰를 진행하였고, 연구 참여자의 사정에 따라
1~2개월의 간격을 두고 인터뷰를 진행될 때도 있었다. 회기당 60분~120분
씩 인터뷰를 진행했다. 대부분은 연구 참여자가 편하게 인터뷰할 수 있는
날짜, 시간, 장소를 정하여 연구자가 찾아가 인터뷰를 진행했다.
신혼기 여성의 자기분화가 부부갈등에 미치는 영향 연구 결과는 다음과
같다.
첫째, 신혼기 여성의 원가족에서 형성된 자기분화는 다음과 같다. 연구
참여자들은 원가족 안에서 부모의 양육 태도와 부모의 요구사항에 부응하
기 위해 거짓자기를 형성하고 융합, 삼각관계, 만성불안, 정서적 단절 등의
형태로 가족투사과정을 거쳐 자기분화를 형성했다.
둘째, 신혼기 여성의 부부갈등에 대한 태도는 다음과 같다. 연구 참여자
들은 다세대 전수과정을 통해 원가족의 분화 수준에 영향을 받고, 자기와
비슷한 분화 수준의 배우자를 선택했다. 또한 원가족과 비슷한 부부 역할
에 대한 기대를 갖고, 의사소통 문제를 답습하는 경향을 보였다.
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셋째, 부부갈등에서 신혼기 여성의 자기분화가 미치는 영향은 다음과 같
다. 원가족에서 삼각관계를 형성하고 모친과 융합하여 부친과 소원한 경
우, 부친과 정반대의 남편을 택했다. 그러나 기대와 정반대의 남편의 모습
에 부부갈등을 빚고, 남편에게 속았다는 생각과 배신감을 느꼈다. 또한 원
가족에서 부모의 융합으로 방임됐다고 느낀 경우, 융합을 통해 정서적 결
핍을 채워줄 수 있는 남편을 택했다. 그러나 남편에게서도 정서적 결핍을
채우지 못하자 스스로 해결사 역할을 하고 실망과 불만을 느꼈다. 또한 부
친 중심의 가부장적 구조와 기독교 신앙 안에서 성장한 경우, 하나님상을
부친에 대한 이미지로 형성하고 자기의 욕구를 감추며 세상에 혼자라는
생각을 가졌다. 깊은 외로움을 해결해줄 대상으로 부친을 닮은 남편을 택
했으나, 부부갈등으로 억압되었던 감정이 터져 나왔다.

목차 (Table of Contents)

• Ⅰ. 서 론 ··································································································1
• 1. 연구의 필요성과 목적···································································1
• 2. 연구 질문 ·························································································6
• 3. 용어 설명 ·························································································6
• 4. 연구 방법 ·························································································8
• 1) 내러티브 탐구의 개념 ································································8
• 2) 내러티브 탐구의 특성 ······························································10
• 3) 내러티브 탐구의 절차 ······························································12
• Ⅱ. 이론적 배경 ···················································································20
• 1. 보웬의 자기분화에 대한 이해 ···················································20
• 1) 자기분화의 역사 ········································································20
• 2) 자기분화의 개념 ········································································22
• 3) 자기분화의 수준 ········································································26
• 2. 신혼기 부부갈등에 대한 이해 ···················································34
• 1) 부부갈등의 특징 ········································································34
• 2) 부부갈등의 원인 ········································································35
• 3) 자기분화와 부부갈등 대처방안 ··············································40
• Ⅲ. 연구절차와 과정 ··········································································43
• 1. 현장으로 들어가기 ·······································································43
• 1) 나의 이야기 ················································································43
• 2) 연구 참여자 선정과 모집 과정 ··············································58
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• 3) 자료 수집과 분석 ······································································58
• 4) 연구 신뢰도 확보와 윤리적 고려 ··········································59
• 5) 연구 참여자 소개 ······································································61
• 2. 현장에서 현장 텍스트로 이동하기 ···········································66
• 3. 현장 텍스트 구성하기: 자기분화와 부부갈등 이야기··············· 66
• 1) A의 경험 이야기 ·······································································66
• 2) B의 경험 이야기 ·······································································93
• 3) C의 경험 이야기 ·····································································127
• Ⅳ. 연구 결과 ·····················································································158
• 1. 현장 텍스트에서 연구 텍스트로 이동하기 ···························158
• 2. 연구 텍스트 작성하기: 다시 이야기하기 ····························· 159
• 1) 원가족에서 형성된 자기분화 ················································163
• 2) 부부갈등에 대한 태도 ····························································172
• 3) 부부갈등에서 자기분화가 미치는 영향 ······························179
• Ⅴ. 결 론 ·····························································································188
• 1. 요 약 ·····························································································188
• 2. 연구의 의의 ·················································································192
• 3. 제 언 ·····························································································194
• 참고문헌 ······························································································195
• Abstract ······························································································202
• 부록 ·······································································································205
• 연구 참여 동의서 ··········································································205
• 연구 질문지 ··················································································206