중년여성의 부부위기 경험에 대한 명리학적 내러티브 연구 : 결정론과 자유의지를 중심으로 = A Study on the Narrative of Saju-Myungrihak of Middle-age Women's Experience of Marital Crisis - Focused on Determinism and Free Will -|RISS 상세보기

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동양의 정신적 근간이 되는 道는 말로 표현할 수 없는 것이 특징이다. 그럼에 도 경전에서는 끊임없이 도를 이야기한다. 말할 수 없음에도 말을 하는 이유는 계속 말함으로써 道를 깨닫게 하기 위함이다. 이것이 본 연구의 방법론으로 ‘이 야기를 살고, 말하고, 다시 말하고, 다시 사는’과정을 연구하는 내러티브연구방 법론을 선택한 이유이다. 이 과정을 통해 연구참여자의 삶을 선명하게 보여줄 수 있기 때문이다. 본 연구는 ‘부부위기를 경험한 중년기여성에 대한 삶’을 명리 학으로 해석하여, 말할 수 없는 담론인 인간의 결정론과 자유의지의 영역과 지 점을 드러내 보여주고자 하였다. 연구를 위하여 어린시절과 청소년기의 성장과정과 중장년기 이르기까지 삶의 어려움이 현저히 크고, 현재는 건강하고 행복한 삶에 이른 참여자를 선택하였 다. 그리고 내러티브탐구방법론으로 삶의 이야기를 구성하고, 명리학적으로 해 석하여 삶의 경험과 그 의미를 탐구하였다. 본 연구의 참여자는 자기 삶의 이야기를 풍부하게 드러낼 수 있고, 연구주제 를 종합적으로 탐구할 수 있는 부부위기를 경험한 중년기 여성 네 명으로 구성 되었다. 자료형성은 2023년 5월부터 2024년 2월까지 개별 인터뷰 2시간씩 3회, 상담 기록노트, 참여자가 작성한 연대기로 이루어졌다. 자료 분석과정에서 면담 전사본과 연구일지를 반복적으로 읽으며 현장 텍스트를 정리하였다. 주요 연구 일지 등을 활용하여 내러티브 풀어내기를 작성하고 다시 3차원의 내러티브 공 간에서 독자와 공명이 되는 의미로 떠올려 연구참여자의 고유하고 개별적인 경 험과 그 의미를 구성하였다. 연구를 수행하기 위한 연구퍼즐은 첫째, 命理學 시각에서 본 이혼위기를 경험 한 중년여성의 삶의 이야기는 어떠한가. 둘째, 命理學 시각에서 본 이혼위기를 경험한 중년여성의 삶의 의미는 어떠한가. 셋째, 命理學 시각에서 본 이혼위기 를 경험한 중년여성의 삶에서 命의 결정론과 자유의지의 지점과 그 요소는 어 떠한가이다. 개별적이고 고유한 삶의 경험은 ‘성장 과정’, ‘남편을 만나 결혼에 이르기까 지’, ‘결혼생활과 위기 상황’, ‘위기 극복 후의 살아가는 이야기’로 나누었다. 이 주제들을 8chapter로 구성하여 풀어내었고, 命理學 시각에서 해석하였다. 이와 같이 연구참여자들이 자기 자신과 만나기까지의 경험의 의미를 ‘엄마의 한숨은 내 언어가 되고’, ‘호랑이굴에서 사자굴로’, ‘命을 아는 일’. ‘그리고 順命’으로 구성하여 다시 이야기하였다. 이는 太過不及의 사주원국과 大歲운의 상 호작용으로 中和를 이루는 삶의 과정이었고, 皮投性에서 企投性으로 자기소외 를 넘어 자기에게로 향하는 여정이었다. [혜원]은 깊은 바다속 인어공주가 되어 자기와 만났다. [지수]는 싱글 골퍼가 되어 필드 위에서 자기를 만났다. [소희]는 눈물과 상처로 만들어진 아름다운 진주목걸이를 목에 걸고 상담자가 된 자기를 만났다. [민주]는 약자를 위한 조례를 만드는 시의원이 되어 자기를 만났다. 본 연구의 함의는 첫째, 이전까지 중화론에 대한 연구가 개념과 이론, 중화된 명조사례 중심이었다면, 본 연구는 개인 삶의 전체 역사 속에서 진행되는 중화 의 과정 탐구이다. 본 연구를 통하여 명리학에서 명조의 중화를 강조하는 이유 를 실증하였다. 둘째, 질적연구방법론인 내러티브연구방법론에 명조해석을 결합 하여 ‘命’과 상호작용하는 연구참여자들의 삶의 경험과 의미를 탐구하였다. 이 과정에서 명리학의 운명론인 결정론과 자유의지 논의에 대해 ‘命 내에서의 자유 의지’라는 결론을 얻었다. 이는 오랫동안 이어 온 운명론의 담론에 대한 명료화 작업이었다. 본 연구의 결과에 대한 내러티브연구의 정당성이 본 연구의 의의이다. 첫째 개인적 정당성은, 연구자는 심리상담자로서 인간의 자유의지 영역을 알고자 하였고, 知命과 順命은 命 내에서는 자유의지라는 결과를 얻었다. 둘째 실제적 정당성은, 본 연구는 심리상담과 명리학 양자를 통합하는 연구로써 間학문적 연구의 활성화에 기여할 것이다. 셋째, 사회적 정당성에서는 명리학의 현실 활 용 지표가 상승하는 현실에 발맞추어 학문의 장에서도 활발한 연구가 필요한 데 본 연구가 초석이 되기를 바란다.

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동양의 정신적 근간이 되는 道는 말로 표현할 수 없는 것이 특징이다. 그럼에 도 경전에서는 끊임없이 도를 이야기한다. 말할 수 없음에도 말을 하는 이유는 계속 말함으로써 道를 깨닫게 하...

다국어 초록 (Multilingual Abstract)

Do(道) which underlies oriental spirit can not be described lingually. Nevertheless, the Do(道) appears in all the Chinese scriptures. That’s because by keeping referring to it, Chines saints wanted people to realize the identity of Do(道). This thesis chose narrative inquiry in which the writer explored the life courses of women who live, narrate, narrate again and live again. In addition, the narrative inquiry could lead us to understand the study participants’ lives vividly. This thesis has two purposes : one is to analyze the lives of four middle – aged women based on Saju-myungrihak. The other is to describe how determinism and free will can be possible in Saju-myungrihak In order to realize this goal, this writer chose four study participants who lead healthy and happy lives, although they underwent terribly unhappy childhood, adolescence, and the middle age in the past. The study participants narrated the stories about their lives actively and frankly. Thanks to them, this writer could explore and analyze their abundant and overall experiences based on Saju-myungrihak The data consist of 3 respective interviews which lasted for two hours from May 2023 to February 2024 , consultation history notes and chronicles which the participants wrote. The writer organized the field texts by reading interview notes and study journals repetitively and by analyzing the data. Utilizing main study journals, the writer recorded their narrations and described the participants’ personal experiences in terms of three dimensions of places, time zones and situations, in order to help readers understand the contents clearly. This thesis targets the description on these three questions. First of all, from a Saju-myungrihak perspective, how is the life stories of middle – aged women who went through divorces? Second, with regard to Saju-myungrihak, how is the meaning of life of these women ? Lastly, based on Saju-myungrihak, how does the determinism of Myung(命) and the free will play a role in the middle-aged women? Their personal and unique experiences are divided into these four stages : <the processes of their growth>, <the processes of meeting their husbands>, <their tough marrages> and <their successful lives after divorces>. These themes have 8 chapters and were analyzed and interpreted according to Saju-myungrihak While listening to them, the writer reached a conculsion that all of them underwent the common life processes, which were made up of <thier mothers’ sighes became their words>, <from tiger’s dens to lion’s> <acknowledging their Myung(命)> and <following their Myung(命)>. The women’s life journeys show the courses that four pillars of destiny(四柱八字) which had too much of particular elements among five elements(五行) interact with Daeun(大運) and Seun(歲運), neutralize the too much of particular elements and achieve the best harmony of five elements. Moreover, their lives indicate the courses that they start with throwness(被投性), overcome self-alienation and finally accomplish(企投性). While she was working as a skin-scuba diver in the deep sea, Hyewon realized her identity. Jisu recognized herself as a single golfer on the field. Sohee found her true self as an able consultant after overcoming lots of their tears and pains. Minju realized her identity as a councilwoman who enacts local ordinances for week people. This thesis aimed to explore the process of middle and harmony(中和) in the history of personal lives, whereas the previous theory of middle and harmony focused on concept, theory and cases of four pillars of destiny(四柱八字). Therefore, based on narrative inquiry, this thesis applied the theory of middle and harmony to the practical cases about four middle – aged women. In addition, as one of qualitative study methods, Sajupalja(四柱八字) analysis by means of narrative inquiry combined destiny(命) and study participants’ experiences, and demonstrated the interation of their destiny and their experiences. In the process, this thesis comes to a conclusion that the conflict between the determination and free will in the Saju-myungrihak is resolved as the meaning of making the best use of free will by following destiny(命) The significance of this thesis is to achieve the justification for narrative inquiry. In the first place, as an aspect of a personal justification, the writer wanted to know the scope of human free will, and found that recognizing destiny(知命) and following destiny(順命) is to exersing free will in the territory of given destiny(命). Secondly, in terms of practical justification, this study will contribute to the integration between psychology consultation and Saju-myungrihak. Thirdly, with regard to a social justification, the writer wants that the contents and methods of this thesis will become the cornerstone of scholardom, catching up with the situation where Saju-myungrihak gets more useful practically in everyday life.

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Ⅰ. 서론 ············································································································· 1
1. 연구자의 내러티브 ····························································································· 1
2. 연구의 필요성 및 목적 ······················································································ 6
3. 연구퍼즐 ············································································································· 13
II. 이론적 배경 및 선행연구 분석 ····························································· 15

Ⅰ. 서론 ············································································································· 1
1. 연구자의 내러티브 ····························································································· 1
2. 연구의 필요성 및 목적 ······················································································ 6
3. 연구퍼즐 ············································································································· 13
II. 이론적 배경 및 선행연구 분석 ····························································· 15
1. 결정론과 자유의지 ····························································································· 15
2. 중화이론 ············································································································· 28
3. 중년여성의 부부위기 ······················································································· 37
1) 중년기여성의 특성 ·························································································· 37
2) 중년여성의 부부위기 ······················································································ 46
4. 내러티브 연구 ··································································································· 52
III. 연구 방법 및 절차 ················································································· 58
1. 연구 방법 ··········································································································· 58
1) 명조분석 ········································································································· 58
2) 내러티브연구 ································································································· 60
3) 연구 절차 ······································································································· 60
(1) 연구참여자 선정 ························································································· 60
(2) 연구자 준비 ······························································································ 66
(3) 연구의 과정 ······························································································ 66
2. 자료수집 및 분석 ····························································································· 72
1) 자료수집 ········································································································· 72
2) 자료분석 ········································································································· 72
3. 윤리적 고려 ······································································································· 74
4. 내러티브 연구의 정당성 ················································································· 75
IV. 중년여성의 부부위기 경험이야기 풀어내기(명리학적 해석) ·········· 77
1. 김혜원 이야기 ··································································································· 79
1) 명조분석 ········································································································· 79
(1) 사주의 특성 ······························································································ 79
(2) 日柱의 특성, 宮星과 十星을 적용한 六親, 직업, 성격, 재산 ········ 82
(3) 大運의 흐름 ······························································································ 83
2) 명조해석 ········································································································· 85
(1) 널 입양 보내려고 했다! ·········································································· 85
(2) ‘돈’이 신앙인 남편 ·················································································· 88
(3) 아들을 낳자 세상을 얻은 것 같았다 ··················································· 91
(4) 이어지는 사건 사고 ················································································· 93
(5) 결혼생활 내내 남편은 골방, 동굴로 숨어 들어갔다 ··························· 95
(6) ‘행복한 가정’이라는 판타지 ·································································· 97
(7) 인어공주가 되어 잭피쉬와 ‘황홀한 군무’를 추다 ··························· 101
(8) ‘엄마와 딸’을 넘어선 여성연대 ·························································· 103
2. 서지수 이야기 ································································································· 106
1) 명조분석 ······································································································· 107
(1) 명조의 특성 ···························································································· 107
(2) 日柱의 특성, 宮星과 十星을 적용한 六親, 직업, 성격, 재산 ········ 109
(3) 大運의 흐름 ···························································································· 110
2) 명조해석 ······································································································· 111
(1) 엄마의 ‘새벽기도’ 의미 ········································································ 111
(2) 막사를 뛰쳐나간 돼지를 찾아 ··························································· 114
(3) 미역국에 밥 말아 무 생채를 얹어 먹으면 ······································· 115
(4) 우리 부부는 전생에 원수였던 게 분명해요 ······································ 117
(5) 일찍 철난 이이들이 안쓰럽다 ····························································· 121
(6) 기미 덮인 얼굴도 내 잘못 ··································································· 125
(7) 처음으로 내가 해볼 수 있는 것 ························································· 127
(8) 남편의 억지스러움에 웃음이 터져 나오고 ········································ 130
3. 김소희 이야기 ································································································· 133
1) 명조분석 ······································································································· 133
(1) 명조의 특성 ···························································································· 133
(2) 日柱의 특성, 宮星과 十星을 적용한 六親, 직업, 성격, 재산 ········ 136
(3) 大運의 흐름 ···························································································· 137
2) 명조해석 ······································································································· 138
(1) 외로움, 두려움, 수치심 그리고 행복의 기억들 ······························· 138
(2) 내가 죽으면, 부모님도 그렇게 싸우지 않겠다 싶었어요 ··············· 142
(3) 너무나 억울해서 집에 불을 지르고 싶었다 ······································ 145
(4) 안도 다다오 ‘빛의 교회’ ······································································ 149
(5) 산후 우울증인 줄도 모르고 ··································································· 151
(6) 시어머니라는 파도가 가고, 경제위기의 파도가 덮쳤다 ················· 154
(7) 조울증 발병과 재발 ················································································ 157
(8) “여보, 나 조증 같아?”, “아니, 이번에는 진짜 당신 모습이야!” ········ 161
4. 이민주 이야기 ································································································· 165
1) 명조분석 ······································································································· 166
(1) 명조의 특성 ···························································································· 166
(2) 日柱의 특성, 宮星과 十星을 적용한 六親, 직업, 성격, 재산 ······ 167
(3) 大運의 흐름 ···························································································· 168
2) 명조해석 ······································································································· 169
(1) 조금만 잘못해도 체벌을 받았어요 ····················································· 169
(2) 잡념이 너무 많이 떠올라 ····································································· 172
(3) 20대의 IMF ···························································································· 175
(4) 30대의 리먼브라더스 ·············································································· 177
(5) 모두에게 착한 남편 ··············································································· 180
(6) 40대의 코로나 ························································································ 183
(7) 내 인생이 왜? 운명이 궁금했다 ························································· 186
(8) 카드섹션(card section)의 주제어가 ‘억울함’에서 ‘감사함’으로 ········· 188
V. 다시 이야기하기 : 명리학적으로 해석한 중년여성의 부부위기 경험의미 ····· 193
1. 彼投性(결정론) ································································································ 194
1) ‘엄마의 한숨 소리’는 ‘내 언어’가 되고 ················································· 195
2) ‘호랑이 굴’에서 ‘사자 굴’로 ······································································· 198
2. 企投性(자유의지) ······························································································ 200
1) ‘命’을 아는 일 ······························································································ 201
2) 그리고 ‘順命’ ······························································································ 204
VI. 결론 ········································································································ 209
1. 논의 ···················································································································· 209
1) 경험의 의미에 대한 논의 ············································································ 211
2) 정당성에 대한 논의 ····················································································· 213
(1) 개인적 정당성에 대한 논의 ··································································· 214
(2) 실제적 정당성에 대한 논의 ··································································· 215
(3) 사회적 정당성에 대한 논의 ··································································· 218
2. 의의 ···················································································································· 220
3. 한계점 및 제언 ······························································································· 222