중독자녀의 부모에 대한 동반의존 치료를 위한 돌봄 = A Pastoral Care for Parents of Addicted Child for Cure of Codependency

다국어 초록 (Multilingual Abstract)

In secularized postmodern society, addiction which is an utmost selfish decision pervaded into every sphere of society. In addiction, in the middle of disturbance and distortion of logic, the addicted manipulates and controls his/her family trying to continue addicted behavior. Other family members provide what the addicted wanted, or cover up the outcomes of addiction blaming themselves to be guilty. Also, they try to control or change their addicted child by pouring their anger and frustration. This is called as codependency and aggravates the addiction. To help the parents of addicted child to be free from the trap of codependency, they need to have differentiation of self, out of emotional enmeshment with their children, with the view point of Christian family therapy. They need to love their children with tough love. And they have to develop the healthy communication channel and skill on the basis of Christian identity. They further need to realize the meaning of true love, true family, true self in Christ, and need to be changed from enabler who does negative role to aggravate the addiction, to empowerer of the addicted child with the grace of almighty God.

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