In this paper, the author will review the overall practices of divorce in Korea based on the divorce statistics of the Legal Aid Center for Family Relations from 1956 to 1999, referring to the statistical divorce rate released by Judicial Yearbook and...
In this paper, the author will review the overall practices of divorce in Korea based on the divorce statistics of the Legal Aid Center for Family Relations from 1956 to 1999, referring to the statistical divorce rate released by Judicial Yearbook and National Statistics Administration. The author conducted two surveys. One was carried out on 650 people with both sexes in order to know the Koreans perception of divorce and search for the reasons regarding the rapid growth rate of divorce in Korea. The other was done through interview at the Center on 112 visitors to study on social and cultural factors that contributed to the increased divorce rate, especially focusing on the divorce demanded by women and elderly people, as shown in various statistics since 1990s,
Since 1970s, things have been changing in terms of socially and culturally. These changes served as a major contributor to the disintegration of traditional family values and created conflicts between husband and wife due to different mentality. Of traditional family values concerned, the patriarchal system in the male-oriented family line has been at the center of the disintegration.
The same changes started to take place in the residential environment, too. The large family-oriented, parents-oriented and male-oriented system in which all the family members lived together in a single household gave way to the couple-oriented nuclear family system whose members preferred to live in the apartment. This concept was widely welcome by young people who got married in urban cities in 1970s. This phenomenon spread across the nation in 1990s, making the family size reduced to a couple with their one or two children.
However, in terms of the family relationship, the members of a family were still controlled by the conventional family code of conduct and rules. This also caused conflicts between wives who pursued an equal relationship in the house and their husbands who opposed it. Furthermore, the radical social and cultural changes started to make people confused about the old value system that they had maintained, especially about the relationship between man and wife within the family.
Alienated from and oppressed by their husbands, and never been in the mainstream of the family, wives have more than welcome and tried to catch up with the changes. However, in the family, it is believed that they were and still are under the same law, the same instruments and the same customs dominated by men. Men want to live the way they did in the past and want to keep it that way, while women want to see human dignity and gender equality be introduced to the family. This causes a different mentality and a cultural delay between husband and wife, and eventually the family disintegration.
These are the root causes for the rapidly increased divorce rate and socially unacceptable behaviors of women in their 40s, such as runaway, gambling, overspending, etc.
As a conclusion, the time has come that we dont necessarily need to see divorce as something negative or socially unacceptable. Divorce needs to be considered a natural phenomenon. So, in this context, the author would like to make two suggestions in this paper in hopes to see them be taken as preventive and post-divorce measures.
First, to prevent divorce and family disintegration:
- Mail-oriented instruments and customs and patrilineal family line-related laws that have been widely penetrated into our society need to be removed.
- Men need to change their mentality in order to catch up with the trend of the times.
- In the firm belief that theres no better alternative to replace the current monogamy system on the earth, the government needs to make an effort to protect it by encouraging people to care for their home.
Secondly, to provide post-divorce measures:
- The society and the government need to take a growing interest in divorced-families by providing their children with improved supportive measures including financial and legal considerations.
- For single-parent families, child care and psychiatric and legal-aiding programs need to be provided.
Divorce is an urgent issue that we need to address in order to prevent the family disintegration further. At the same time, divorced family-related issues also need to be addressed in an urgent manner since, as a member of our society, they have the right to live a quality life, a life worthy of human.