Human lives are the process of all kinds of addiction. The addictions appear through all the lives, and directly affect families and close people. So the addictions are more serious problems. Especially persons who have relationship addiction, obsessi...
Human lives are the process of all kinds of addiction. The addictions appear through all the lives, and directly affect families and close people. So the addictions are more serious problems. Especially persons who have relationship addiction, obsessively stick to the relationship among people. Therefore, they will lose their control about the feeling of love and actions. Losing control of the actions leads to unreasonable relationship and excessive self-centeredness. Furthermore they not only lose their self-pride but also show the wrong attachment to the relationship among their close persons. It results in the sacrifice of their families, their friends, and closely related to the attachment and the loss of their self-esteem. The reasons are their parents' attitude in the process of growing up, dysfunction family and accompanied dependence of addiction families. The results of such relationship not divided from their parents are mama-boys and mama-girls, that is, grown-up children.
This study is for drawing conclusions of the relationship addiction of many kinds of addictions, the attachment patterns and the effect of low self-esteem for adults. In addition, I have searched for the problems of adults relationship on the counseling offices and the ways to help relationship-addicted people. I have surveyed 313 adults living in the metropolitan areas with three questionnaires ;Relationship addiction, Self-Competence Scale Revised Version and Relation Questionnaires. I have carried out a regression analysis about those questionnaires.
The regression analyses have showed that there were differences of their self-esteem according to attachment types. The secure attachment type has showed the static correlation related to self-esteem. The fearful and preoccupied attachment type has showed the astatic correlation related to self-esteem. Especially the preoccupied attachment type (self-neglect & others affirmation) has showed the strongest on the relationship addiction. The person who has this preoccupied attachment tends to think that they are not loved and worthless but they think others are valuable.
And they want to be accepted and stick to the interpersonal relationship. Men have showed the relationship addiction further than women do. The reason of the relationship addiction has nothing to do with marriage, children, economic ability, educational background and etc. Therefore, I have come to a conclusion that the relationship addiction is related to the attachment formed from childhood, the way of their parental bringing up, or family background.